WE NEED TO TALK!!!!!: October 2012

THIS WAS WRITTEN BY MY FRIEND IN EGYPT. ASHRAF....

Christian marriage & Christian divorce

My dear friends at the beginning i must say that my essay could shock many people that many hapits and traditions that you in USA and Europe consider normal is not match with christianity . like divorce should only be for adultery only for adultery . relationships is not marriage but adultery . any marriage takes place at church and blessed by priest is a c

hristian marriage and only that kind of marriage is religiously legal & blessed by god .

what is the meaning of being christian

( what is the meanining of the word " christian " ) :

Christian is a person who adheres to Christianity, an Abrahamic, monotheistic religion based on the life and teachings of Jesus of Nazareth as recorded in the Canonical gospels and the letters of the New Testament. "Christian" derives from the Koine Greek word Christ, a translation of the Biblical Hebrew term Messiah.

Central to the Christian faith is the gospel, the teaching that humans have hope for salvation through the message and work of Jesus, and particularly, his atoning death on the cross. Christians also believe Jesus is the Messiah prophesied in the Hebrew Bible. Most Christians believe in the doctrine of the Trinity ("tri-unity"), a description of God as Father, Son and Holy Spirit ( this identification was quoted from facebook )

The underlined phrases emphasis that to be Christian is to follow the teachings of our lord Jesus Christ whish exist in the holy bible . now let us see what the bible says about marriage & divorce .

why I wrote this essay :-

I wrote it out of my deep and sincere love to my brothers in Christ in USA and Europe . I saw that divorce devastating your families , destroying your children and subjects you to god's wrath. heretic people convincing people that homosexuality and divorce without the reason of adultery does not interfere with Christianity . some people undermine marriage and people used relationships as an alternative for marriage and thus they commit the sin of adultery . people do not care about their virginity and get involved in pre marriage relationship even be proud about it . I wrote this essay and many to follow because I do care about your eternity .

Introduction

At the beginning we must have a look over the prophecies of our fathers the apostles about the last days . to see how much it is fulfilled

Prediction of Apostasy

Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils;

speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron;

forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth. ( 1 timothy 4;1-3 )

The Character of Men in the Last Days

This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come.

For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy,

without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,

traitors, heady, high-minded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God;

having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away.

For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts,

ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth.

Now as Jannes and Jambres withstood Moses, Ex. 7.11 so do these also resist the truth: men of corrupt minds, reprobate concerning the faith.

But they shall proceed no further: for their folly shall be manifest unto all men, as theirs also was.

( 2 timothy 3;1-9 )

As we all see . the verses speaks for itself as if the apostolic father are living with us now a days . heretic people are getting from our Christian faith with our help we obey them to get our lusts . we do not care about honorable marriage but we care about relationships and divorcing to get another partners to satisfy our lustful desires .

Do our lord Jesus Christ in favor of marriage .

Bible Verses About Marriage - Marriage is a sacred vow between a man and woman and the Bible offers many verses that offer guidance for married couples, husbands, wives, newlyweds and engagement. Read verses from the Holy Bible about marriage in relation to God, Jesus Christ, and the Christian faith.

Christian Marriage conditions

1- Marriage is To be between one single unmarried man and one single unmarried woman

2- Both should be believers

3- Divorce is only for adultery

So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. Mt. 19.4 • Mk. 10.6

And God blessed them, Gen. 5.1, 2 and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth ( Genesis 1;27-28 )

And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept; and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof.

And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, 1 because she was taken out of Man. 2

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Mt. 19.5 • Mk. 10.7, 8 • 1 Cor. 6.16 • Eph. 5.31

And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.

( Genesis 2 ; 21-25 )

Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing

and obtaineth favor of the LORD. ( Proverbs 18;22 )

¶ Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labor.

For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.

Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?

( Ecclesiastes 4;9-11 )

¶ Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of the life of thy vanity, which he hath given thee under the sun, all the days of thy vanity: for that is thy portion in this life, and in thy labor which thou takest under the sun.

( Ecclesiastes 9;9 )

For as a young man marrieth a virgin, so shall thy sons marry thee: and as the bridegroom rejoiceth over the bride, so shall thy God rejoice over thee.

( Isaiah 62;5 )

The Wedding at Cana

And the third day there was a marriage in Cana of Galilee; and the mother of Jesus was there:

and both Jesus was called, and his disciples, to the marriage.

And when they wanted wine, the mother of Jesus saith unto him, They have no wine.

Jesus saith unto her, Woman, what have I to do with thee? mine hour is not yet come.

His mother saith unto the servants, Whatsoever he saith unto you, do it.

And there were set there six waterpots of stone, after the manner of the purifying of the Jews, containing two or three firkins apiece.

Jesus saith unto them, Fill the waterpots with water. And they filled them up to the brim.

And he saith unto them, Draw out now, and bear unto the governor of the feast. And they bare it.

When the ruler of the feast had tasted the water that was made wine, and knew not whence it was, (but the servants which drew the water knew,) the governor of the feast called the bridegroom,

and saith unto him, Every man at the beginning doth set forth good wine; and when men have well drunk, then that which is worse: but thou hast kept the good wine until now.

This beginning of miracles did Jesus in Cana of Galilee, and manifested forth his glory; and his disciples believed on him.

( John 2;1-11 )

life of Chastity

virginity was and still and will be a christian value men and women all should be virgin unto marriage

Laws concerning Chastity

¶ If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her,

and give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil name upon her, and say, I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid:

then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the damsel's virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate:

and the damsel's father shall say unto the elders, I gave my daughter unto this man to wife, and he hateth her;

and, lo, he hath given occasions of speech against her, saying, I found not thy daughter a maid; and yet these are the tokens of my daughter's virginity. And they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city.

And the elders of that city shall take that man and chastise him;

and they shall amerce him in a hundred shekels of silver, and give them unto the father of the damsel, because he hath brought up an evil name upon a virgin of Israel: and she shall be his wife; he may not put her away all his days.

But if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel:

then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father's house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die; because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father's house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you.

¶ If a man be found lying with a woman married to a husband, then they shall both of them die,both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel.

¶ If a damsel that is a virgin be betrothed unto a husband, and a man find her in the city, and lie with her;

then ye shall bring them both out unto the gate of that city, and ye shall stone them with stones that they die; the damsel, because she cried not, being in the city; and the man, because he hath humbled his neighbor's wife: so thou shalt put away evil from among you.

¶ But if a man find a betrothed damsel in the field, and the man force her, and lie with her; then the man only that lay with her shall die:

but unto the damsel thou shalt do nothing; there is in the damsel no sin worthy of death: for as when a man riseth against his neighbor, and slayeth him, even so is this matter:

for he found her in the field, and the betrothed damsel cried, and there was none to save her.

¶ If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found;

then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel's father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days. Ex. 22.16, 17

¶ A man shall not take his father's wife, nor discover his father's skirt. Lev. 18.8 ; 20.11 • Deut. 27.20

( Deuteronomy 22;13-30 )

Warning against Unchastity

My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding

that thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.

For the lips of a strange woman drop as a honeycomb . and her mouth is smoother than oil:

but her end is bitter as wormwood sharp as a two-edged sword.

Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.

Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life

her ways are movable, that thou canst not know them.

Hear me now therefore, O ye children,

and depart not from the words of my mouth.

Remove thy way far from her,

and come not nigh the door of her house:

lest thou give thine honor unto others,

and thy years unto the cruel:

lest strangers be filled with thy wealth;

and thy labors be in the house of a stranger;

and thou mourn at the last

when thy flesh and thy body are consumed,

and say, How have I hated instruction,

and my heart despised reproof;

and have not obeyed the voice of my teachers

nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me!

I was almost in all evil

in the midst of the congregation and assembly.

Drink waters out of thine own cistern

and running waters out of thine own well.

Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad,

and rivers of waters in the streets.

Let them be only thine own,

and not strangers' with thee.

Let thy fountain be blessed:

and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.

Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe;

let her breasts satisfy thee at all times;

and be thou ravished always with her love.

And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman,

and embrace the bosom of a stranger?

For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD,

and he pondereth all his goings.

His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself,

and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins.

He shall die without instruction;

and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray. ( Proverbs 5 )

A foolish woman is clamorous:

she is simple, and knoweth nothing.

For she sitteth at the door of her house,

on a seat in the high places of the city,

to call passengers

who go right on their ways:

Whoso is simple, let him turn in hither

and as for him that wanteth understanding, she saith to him,

Stolen waters are sweet

and bread eaten in secret is pleasant.

But he knoweth not that the dead are there;

and that her guests are in the depths of hell. ( proverbs 9;13-18 )

Duties if the husband and the wife towards each other

Praise of a Good Woman

Who can find a virtuous woman?

For her price is far above rubies.

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her

so that he shall have no need of spoil.

She will do him good and not evil

all the days of her life.

She seeketh wool, and flax,

and worketh willingly with her hands.

She is like the merchants' ships;

she bringeth her food from afar.

She riseth also while it is yet night,

and giveth meat to her household,

and a portion to her maidens.

She considereth a field, and buyeth it:

with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.

She girdeth her loins with strength,

and strengtheneth her arms.

She perceiveth that her merchandise is good:

her candle goeth not out by night.

She layeth her hands to the spindle,

and her hands hold the distaff.

She stretcheth our her hand to the poor;

yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

She is not afraid of the snow for her household:

for all her household are clothed with scarlet.

She maketh herself coverings of tapestry;

her clothing is silk and purple.

Her husband is known in the gates,

when he sitteth among the elders of the land.

She maketh fine linen, and selleth it;

and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.

Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.

She openeth her mouth with wisdom;

and in her tongue is the law of kindness.

She looketh well to the ways of her household,

and eateth not the bread of idleness.

Her children arise up, and call her blessed;

her husband also, and he praiseth her.

Many daughters have done virtuously,

but thou excellest them all.

Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain:

but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

Give her of the fruit of her hands;

and let her own works praise her in the gates. proverbs 31;10-31

Proverbs 12:4

A wife of noble character is her husband's crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.

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Proverbs 19:14

Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.

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Proverbs 20:6-7

Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find? The righteous man leads a blameless life; blessed are his children after him.

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Proverbs 30:18-19

"There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand: the way of an eagle in the sky, the way of a snake on a rock, the way of a ship on the high seas, and the way of a man with a maiden.

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If you wanted guidance in your life and wisdom to deal with people read and learn from ( the chapter of proverbs )

I am the rose of Sharon

and the lily of the valleys.

As the lily among thorns

so is my love among the daughters.

As the apple tree among the trees of the wood,

so is my beloved among the sons.

I sat down under his shadow with great delight,

and his fruit was sweet to my taste.

( Song of songs 2;1-3 )

in ( song of songs ) the lord the bridegroom says tender words to our soul his bride . shall we learn from him how deal with our wives – read the chapter of the song of songs

and I will give them one heart, and one way, that they may fear me for ever, for the good of them, and of their children after them:

and I will make an everlasting covenant with them, that I will not turn away from them, to do them good; but I will put my fear in their hearts, that they shall not depart from me.

( Jeremiah 32;39-40 )

And I will betroth thee unto me for ever; yea, I will betroth thee unto me in righteousness, and in judgment, and in loving-kindness, and in mercies.

I will even betroth thee unto me in faithfulness: and thou shalt know the LORD. ( Hosea 2;19-20 )

And I have declared unto them thy name, and will declare it; that the love wherewith thou hast loved me may be in them, and I in them.

( John 17;26 )

An Analogy from Marriage

Know ye not, brethren, (for I speak to them that know the law,) how that the law hath dominion over a man as long as he liveth?

For the woman which hath a husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.

So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man

( Romans 7;1-3 )

Exhortations for Christian Living

I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God.

( Romans 12;1-2 )

Problems concerning Marriage

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

But I speak this by permission, and not of commandment.

For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that.

¶ I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.

But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

¶ And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from herhusband:

but and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife. Mt. 5.32 ; 19.9 • Mk. 10.11, 12 • Lk. 16.18

¶ But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.

And the woman which hath a husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him.

For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.

But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in suchcases: but God hath called us to peace.

For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

( 1 Corinthians 7;1-16 )

¶ Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.

I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be.

Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife.

But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you.

But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none;

and they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not;

and they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away.

¶ But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord:

but he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife.

There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.

¶ But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

Nevertheless he that standeth steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.

So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.

¶ The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.

( 1 Corinthians 7;25-40 )

¶ Now I praise you, brethren, that ye remember me in all things, and keep the ordinances, as I delivered them to you.

But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.

( 1 Corinthians 11;2-3 )

¶ I beseech you, brethren, (ye know the house of Steph'anas, 1 Cor. 1.16 that it is the firstfruits of Achai'a, and that they have addicted themselves to the ministry of the saints,)

( 1 Corinthians 16;15 )

Love

Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become assounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.

And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, Mt. 17.20 ; 21.21 • Mk. 11.23 and have not charity, I am nothing.

And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.

¶ Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,

doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;

rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;

beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

¶ Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there betongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.

But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.

When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

For now we see through a glass, darkly, but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.

And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.

( 1 Corinthians 13 )

love is the back bone of every successful marriage . it is your only weapon you have to face the hardings of life . god is love ,those who deny love deny god .

Be Subject to One Another

¶ Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, Col. 3.18 • 1.1--0.1 ; 0.3 ; 0.1--0.1 as unto the Lord.

For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

Husbands, love your wives, Col. 3.19 • 1 Pet. 3.7 even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

that he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

that he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.

For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:

for we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. Gen. 2.24

This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.

Nevertheless, let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wifesee that she reverence her husband. Ephesians 5;22-33

The Behavior of Wives and Husbands

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; Eph. 5.22 • Col. 3.18 that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

Whose adorning, let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; 1 Tim. 2.9

but let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:

even as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: Gen. 18.12 whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.

¶ Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife,Eph. 5.25 • Col. 3.19 as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

( 1 peter 3 ; 1-7 )

Social Duties of the New Life

¶ Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, Eph. 5.22 • 1 Pet. 3.1 as it is fit in the Lord.

Husbands, love your wives, Eph. 5.25 • 1 Pet. 3.7 and be not bitter against them.

( Collossian 3;18-19 )

But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

(1 timothy 5;8 )

bible considers those who do not care about their family unbelievers

I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully. .

( 1 timothy 5;14)

the main cause of marriage is breeding not to man die out

that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

( Titus 2;4-5 )

At marriage husband and wife may see the image of the lord in the other partner . how would you like your partner to see the image of the lord in you .

Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

( Hebrews 13;4 )

Divorce in Christianity

As we will see the divorce at the old testament was not easy but as the lord said it was because of the cruelty of the people but at the age of grace we should be more tolerant and divorce is only for adultery

¶ And the LORD spake unto Moses, saying,

Speak unto the children of Israel, and say unto them, If any man's wife go aside, and commit a trespass against him,

and a man lie with her carnally, and it be hid from the eyes of her husband, and be kept close, and she be defiled, and there be no witness against her, neither she be taken with the manner;

and the spirit of jealousy come upon him, and he be jealous of his wife, and she be defiled; or if the spirit of jealousy come upon him, and he be jealous of his wife, and she be not defiled:

then shall the man bring his wife unto the priest, and he shall bring her offering for her, the tenthpart of an ephah of barley meal; he shall pour no oil upon it, nor put frankincense thereon; for it is an offering of jealousy, an offering of memorial, bringing iniquity to remembrance.

¶ And the priest shall bring her near, and set her before the LORD:

and the priest shall take holy water in an earthen vessel; and of the dust that is in the floor of the tabernacle the priest shall take, and put it into the water:

and the priest shall set the woman before the LORD, and uncover the woman's head, and put the offering of memorial in her hands, which is the jealousy offering: and the priest shall have in his hand the bitter water that causeth the curse:

and the priest shall charge her by an oath, and say unto the woman, If no man have lain with thee, and if thou hast not gone aside to uncleanness with another instead of thy husband, be thou free from this bitter water that causeth the curse:

but if thou hast gone aside to another instead of thy husband, and if thou be defiled, and some man have lain with thee besides thine husband:

then the priest shall charge the woman with an oath of cursing, and the priest shall say unto the woman, The LORD make thee a curse and an oath among thy people, when the LORD doth make thy thigh to rot, and thy belly to swell;

and this water that causeth the curse shall go into thy bowels, to make thy belly to swell, andthy thigh to rot. And the woman shall say, Amen, amen.

¶ And the priest shall write these curses in a book, and he shall blot them out with the bitter water:

and he shall cause the woman to drink the bitter water that causeth the curse: and the water that causeth the curse shall enter into her, and become bitter.

Then the priest shall take the jealousy offering out of the woman's hand, and shall wave the offering before the LORD, and offer it upon the altar:

and the priest shall take a handful of the offering, even the memorial thereof, and burn it upon the altar, and afterward shall cause the woman to drink the water.

And when he hath made her to drink the water, then it shall come to pass, that if she be defiled, and have done trespass against her husband, that the water that causeth the curse shall enter into her, and become bitter, and her belly shall swell, and her thigh shall rot: and the woman shall be a curse among her people.

And if the woman be not defiled, but be clean; then she shall be free, and shall conceive seed.

¶ This is the law of jealousies, when a wife goeth aside to another instead of her husband, and is defiled;

or when the spirit of jealousy cometh upon him, and he be jealous over his wife, and shall set the woman before the LORD, and the priest shall execute upon her all this law.

Then shall the man be guiltless from iniquity, and this woman shall bear her iniquity.

( Numbers 5;11-31 )

When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favor in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, Mt. 5.31 ; 19.7 • Mk. 10.4 and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.

And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man's wife.

And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife;

her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the LORD: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the LORD thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.

¶ When a man hath taken a new wife, he shall not go out to war, neither shall he be charged with any business: but he shall be free at home one year, and shall cheer up his wife which he hath taken.

( Deuteronomy 24;1-5 )

Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant.

( Malachi 2;14 )

As we see we may go to courts to get divorce but at the doomsday god will judge between the man and his wife and the mistaken will be punished

The new testament

Jesus' Attitude toward Divorce

¶ It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: Deut. 24.1-4 • Mt. 19.7 • Mk. 10.4

but I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. Mt. 19.9 • Mk. 10.11, 12 • Lk. 16.18 • 1 Cor. 7.10, 11 matthew 5;31-32

Jesus' Teaching on Divorce

Mk. 10.1-12 • Lk. 16.18

And it came to pass, that when Jesus had finished these sayings, he departed from Galilee, and came into the coasts of Judea beyond Jordan;

and great multitudes followed him; and he healed them there.

¶ The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?

And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, Gen. 1.27 ; 5.2

and said,

For this cause shall a man leave father and mother,

and shall cleave to his wife:

and they twain shall be one flesh Gen. 2.24 ?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away? Deut. 24.1-4 • Mt. 5.31

He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery. Mt. 5.32 • 1 Cor. 7.10, 11

¶ His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.

But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.

( Matthew19;1-12 )

Jesus' Teaching on Divorce

Mt. 19.1-12 • Lk. 16.18

And he arose from thence, and cometh into the coasts of Judea by the farther side of Jordan: and the people resort unto him again; and, as he was wont, he taught them again.

¶ And the Pharisees came to him, and asked him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife? tempting him.

And he answered and said unto them, What did Moses command you?

And they said, Moses suffered to write a bill of divorcement, and to put her away. Deut. 24.1-4 •Mt. 5.31

And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.

But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. Gen. 1.27 ; 5.2

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;

and they twain shall be one flesh: Gen. 2.24 so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.

What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

¶ And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter.

And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.

And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery. Mt. 5.32 • 1 Cor. 7.10, 11 ( mark 10;1-12 )

Jesus' Teaching on Divorce

Mt. 19.1-12 • Mk. 10.1-12

¶ Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from her husband committeth adultery. Mt. 5.32 • 1 Cor. 7.10, 11

( Luke 16;18 )

Christianity = Monogamy

Qualifications of Bishops

This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.

A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach;

not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;

one that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;

(for if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)

not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.

Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil. Tit. 1.6-9

Qualifications of Deacons

¶ Likewise must the deacons be grave, not double-tongued, not given to much wine, not greedy of filthy lucre;

holding the mystery of the faith in a pure conscience.

And let these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being foundblameless.

Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.

Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.

For they that have used the office of a deacon well purchase to themselves a good degree, and great boldness in the faith which is in Christ Jesus.

( 1 timothy 3;1-13 )

if any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly .( Titus 1;6 )

Homosexuality is against Christianity

Please read The Destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah ( Genesis 19 1;24 )

Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.

( Lev 18 ; 22 )

If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. Lev. 18.22

( lev 20 ; 13 )

In the new testament :

Professing themselves to be wise, they became fools and changed the glory of the uncorruptible God into an image made like to corruptible man, and to birds, and four-footed beasts, and creeping things.

Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness, through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonor their own bodies between themselves:

who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.

For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

and likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet.

28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

( Romans 1 22; 28 )

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

( Corinthians 1st 6 9;10 )

Even as Sodom and Gomor'rah, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire. Gen. 19.1-24

( Jude 1 ; 7 )

What about those ( priests ) who make a wedding for homosexual couples .

Will , I have to say that they are heresy ( heretic ) people and their faith is not correct .

( please check my " anti homosexual essay " for more details

Christian & non Christian marriage

Ye Are the Temple of the Living God

¶ Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?

And what concord hath Christ with Be'li-al? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; 1 Cor. 3.16 ; 6.19 as God hath said,

I will dwell in them, and walk in them;

and I will be their God,

and they shall be my people. Lev. 26.12 • Ezek. 37.27

Wherefore come out from among them

and be ye separate,

saith the Lord,

and touch not the unclean thing; Is. 52.11

and I will receive you,

and will be a Father unto you

and ye shall be my sons and daughters, 2 Sam. 7.14 • 1 Chr. 17.13

saith the Lord Almighty.

( 2 Corinthians 6;14-18 )

At the end

Hearing and Doing the Word

¶ Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:

for the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.

Wherefore lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, and receive with meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls.

¶ But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.

For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass:

( James 1;19-23 )

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

( James 4;7 )

because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy. Lev. 11.44, 45 ; 19.2

( 1 peter 1;16 )

What is the good news :

God loves humankind we are his sons & daughters . he does not want to punish us but wants salvation for us that is why he offered himself as a sacrifice on the cross to give us life and another chance . so as long we are a life , we still have the chance to repent every sin we have committed no matter what it is . after death there is no repentance . no one can tell when he / she will die so let us repent now . repent all before it is too late .

who will have all men to be saved, and to come unto the knowledge of the truth.

( 1 timothy 2 ; 4 )

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Friday, October 5, 2012